We looked up the word “sister” in the dictionary and this is what we found.
Sister: a female having the same parents as another.
Well, that’s a start… however there are so many
more words to describe a sister, how about Best Friend or Worse Enemy?
Thankfully we’ve never had the experience of
“worse enemy” but have witnessed it while watching others. It’s so sad
and is such a waste when siblings can’t get along. A sister can be your worst
enemy because she knows things about you that others can’t possibly know simply
by living with you. And let’s face it ladies, we can be so much worse
then men when it comes to tearing each other down.
We are happy to announce that we HAVE HAD the
joy of “Best Friends”! If you choose to allow your sisters (and we make
that plural because there’s 3 of us) your best friends, life is so much more
enjoyable and filled with unexpected blessings. I believe God can’t help
but smile when he sees siblings getting along. Don’t get us wrong, we
have our share of disagreements, but like any relationship, it’s what you do
after you disagree that changes things. Will you choose to get over it
and allow your bond to get stronger or choose to allow the disagreement to come
between you?
One of the things we would like to address is
age. It gets so tiring listening to people use an age difference as an
excuse to not have your sister as your best friend. Age shouldn’t matter
– period. There are four years in between each of us, so if you’re doing
your math correctly that mean there are 8 years between the oldest and
youngest. Yes, you will be at different stages of your life, being a 12
year old with a 4 year old sister means the 4 year old will have no idea what
the soon-to-be teenager is going through but that doesn’t mean you can’t do
anything together. You can still play Barbie’s with your little sister
and she can still write you little notes to encourage you. I do admit the
older you get the easier it is to have things in common, but even then it can
still be a challenge to find things you’re both interested in – but it’s ALWAYS
possible.
One thing that our mother instilled in us is a
healthy respect for each other. You don’t nit-pick at each other’s
faults. They are there, both you
and she know about them so there’s no reason to constantly be bringing them up.
How about when borrowing a shirt, you return it in the same condition you
borrowed it in. Respect each other!
Sisters share a special bond. Theirs is a
relationship that people don’t understand. We’re often asked if we fought
all the time growing up. We had our share of disagreements, but usually
we’re able to work them out ourselves. Having a sister should be a
positive thing, not a negative. A sister is a friend who has to love you
– you’re stuck with her the rest of your life so you might as well enjoy her!
You can learn so much from your sister if you
allow yourself to. From challenging each other to do better spiritually
or learning things in simple practical ways like, watching the way she handles
her children, to having fun dancing to 50’s music while doing Saturday morning
chores. There’s always something that can be gleaned. The older we get
(not that we’re really old) the more we realize how important our relationship
is.
So our definition of sister: Someone who
challenges you. Adventure. Special Bond. Friend. ROAD
TRIPS! Teacher. Encourager. And the list can go on and on.
Life is an adventure and when you have a sister,
the adventure can be that much better!!
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