The Journey of 'Singleness'

Today I am going to talk about something, that is so very near and dear to my heart, and that is the topic of 'Singleness' 

"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." 

{Jeremiah 29:11}

What messes up most of our lives, 

is the picture we have in our heads of how our lives
are supposed to be. 

If that snapshot in your dream-scrapbook includes a handsome hubby by your side, you’re probably wondering about now where he is. 

Yeah, I thought he’d be here by now.  

Plenty of other godly, single women in every age range are thinking the same thing. Me included... 

But my heart breaks and aches, 

for the many women I have met 

who have settled for less than their

God-given best. 

Women who didn’t believe that they were worth the fight, magnificent, extravagant, and crazy amazing...

I’m saddened by how easy it is for us women to give our hearts away, sometimes to the most undeserving of men. 

Women will only be choosy when they believe that they are worth choosing. When we begin to believe we are treasures worth finding 

and precious gems worth keeping 

our mindsets instantly start to change. 

Choosing to wait for our future spouses'
goes beyond a boundary, 

it goes beyond any rules. 

It is overflowing in love, purity, 

and true desires. 

I choose to wait for whoever God has for me because, I believe that this season of waiting will help mold me into the Woman of God, 

He has called me to be. 

I think part of our problem as Christian women lies in, our fear of unconditionally trusting God. 

Deep down, we want to fully trust Him, but we wonder if we really truly can. We wonder if He will really follow through. We wonder if He knows us, as well as we think we know ourselves. 

"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;" 

{Proverbs 3:5}

I believe waiting will teach us to trust God with everything...

Even in our 'love lives' ;)

The purpose of waiting is NOT because we are waiting for God to ‘hurry up and finally bring the guy’. 

Keeping this in mind, 

God isn’t keeping that wonderful man from you. 

Nor has He forgotten that you’re over there waiting. You’re not on your own. You don’t have to invest all your energy looking right, or being in the right place, at the right time to find God’s match for you. 

Instead, our energies are better spent growing every day into amazing women of God, who will recognize God’s man when he shows up in our lives. 

We are being shaped and formed each day, into the image of Christ. 

There are things God is working out of us, and into us. 

God created us with one sole purpose of knowing Him and making Him known. Your singleness is God’s perfect place for you to thrive. 

You don’t have to wait for your "knight-in-shining-armour"

 to start living. 

You can know the Lord fully and serve Him wholly right here, 

right now.

The purpose I believe, in our singleness is to take everyday and glorify Jesus in everything we do. 

From saying hello to people, 

to serving those who need help. 

It is an incredible opportunity to be able to spend hours with God in prayer, in fasting, and in worship. 

It is an opportunity to let our lives 

be true living sacrifices. 

My desire for my life is to be a reminder to the world that singleness does not mean you are “stuck”. Remember, waiting is not always a bad thing, ladies!! 

Waiting is an opportunity for God to purify and perfect His will in our lives. The longer we wait, the more time we can invest in becoming more Christ-like, as Single Ladies :) 

 

Everyday is an opportunity to be 

refined in God's fiery love. 

Everyday is an oppurtunity to say yes to love and no to fear. 

Everyday is an opportunity to open locked doors in our hearts and to discover hidden talents and desires. 

Everyday is an opportunity to go deeper in God's love. 

When we begin looking at this season of waiting as an opportunity to be purified and refined for a possible spouse, it most definitely becomes more of an adventure!! 

Instead of dreading each new day, wondering if every person we see is “the one." 

We can start living right now, 

we now can choose to see the beauty in each and everyday, knowing that it is shaping us to be who He called us to be. 

(First and foremost a Lover of God)

 "Trust in the LORD forever..."

{Isaiah 26:4} 

The journey to one day become a 

Wife starts now. Today matters.

How we respond to the things of today, will determine how our tomorrow goes. 

Though the Battle may get tough... 

Seek your strength from prayer, 

not people. Be open, and trustworthy, live in full communion, 

with our Heavenly Father. 

 

Love waits...patiently.

 

So today, if you are single will you make the choice to wait patiently and proactively?!? 

We all have a choice in how we can Live your lives. Looking forward to what God has for us today and everyday to come, or impatiently waiting for the day we will meet 

"the one" and possibly missing out on opportunities today. 

So, as much as we want to plan out our picture-perfect lives...we unfortunately can't, but on the brighter side of that, Life always has a way of surprising you with unexpected things that will make you even happier than you originally planned, so that's always
something to look forward to ❤️

Ladies, in closing I would like to say, 

like I have said before in many previous posts...
Never be ashamed of your Singleness!
Just because you are the only girl you know who isn't dating, doesn't mean you are not worth waiting for...
There is a man out there waiting just as patiently as you are, 

we just have to TRUST God! 

Never forget that you are worth the wait!! 

Until next time, 

~Kerrington 

Guest-post~ When your best is not good enough

 

Written by: Crystal 

When Kerrington approached me about writing a guest blog on her page, I took much time to seek the Lord about what He would have me share with you, and after much consideration, I believe He would like me to share on our struggle with inadequacy.

 

Lately it seems that everywhere around me I’ve been hearing 

“I’m not good enough”.  

This statement is such a familiar one to me as well; 

I can’t even count how many times I remember telling myself that exact despairing phrase in the recesses of my mind.  

Whether it’s whispered in our heart with those words, or whether the words form in our actions through seeking outward approval, acceptance or attention from any means other than that of Christ Jesus…the form it takes is of little consequence compared to our response to that simple little statement.

 

It is our response to that statement that determines everything.  

I’d like to tell you that yes you are good enough…but the sad fact of the matter is that our human condition is not good enough.  

Our human condition is messed up and wicked to the core.  

This is a truth that offends us, but if we chose to accept it, we can be set free.  There is a solution to this messed up state….the solution is found in the sacrifice of Jesus Christ, the only One who was found good enough to offer us forgiveness, acceptance, and a fresh start…without expiration date or limit of use.  

When we chose to accept this gift, the real us begins to be revealed as Christ peels back the layers of mess to display the beauty that He has seen all along.  

 

I’d like to introduce a new thought for you today.  You are not the sum of all of your mistakes, failures, successes, or accomplishments.  

You are far more than that.  

Your value can not be measured in the amount of friends you can attain or keep.  

Your worth does not depend on the amount of money in your bank account or the material possessions you have acquired.  

Regardless of the struggles or the mess you are in even in this very moment, it does not define how God views you and what He calls you.  

Christ calls you His child; 

He does not love like your earthly parents.  His love does not depend on your behaviour or your performance.  His love is not fickle or fading and He does not stop calling you His child just because you stop calling 

Him your Father.  

 

His desire is that you would experience His rich love for you and believe in the truth of how He sees you and what He calls you, because when He looks at you He does not define you 

by the mess of your deficiencies.  

He does not call you by that mess that you try to hide and think is the 

“real you”.  

 

No, when He looks at you He sees the forgiveness and nature of Christ.  He sees all of the beauty that He placed inside of your heart, the destiny that He wove together, and the unique, quirky traits and characteristics that make up who you are.  

He sees that these qualities have been hijacked, twisted, and warped by the hurts and wounds of life, but He hasn’t deviated one bit from His original plan for you.  

He sees the original you that He created, and this my friend, 

this is the “real you”; not the outer image you project to others, nor the inner mess that you wish more than anything to hide, no it is His original creation, healed and whole that He calls the “real you”.  

And this “real you” is good enough.

~Crystal❤️

About Crystal: 

My life in a nutshell; 

I am a lover of Jesus and my success comes in knowing that I’m loved by Him, additionally I’m a wife of almost 

7 years, and a momma 

of two wonderful little people.  

I keep busy serving on our church worship team and youth ministry, and in my spare time I create custom wood signs.  A few things that float my boat include encouraging others, writing, singing loudly 

(preferably when alone), 

ransacking thrift shops, and creating 

or decorating pretty much anything! 

You can find me at my blog: 

www.speaksomethingbeautiful.blogspot.com